The education system is geared to teach children subliminally to make excuses throughout their lives, keeping them in a life of fear and trapping them in a cycle that prevents them from following their dreams. The key to breaking this cycle is continuous self-education for yourself and your children.

I am not saying that you have to take them out of the education system, as the interaction with other children is an education on its own.

So, what are the differences between excuse-makers and doers? Their profound mindset difference can be broken down into several key areas.

“But before I do that, we will all find that we can be in one camp as an excuse maker and in another as a doer, depending on what we are interested in, so don’t take this too seriously, as motivation is the key to dispensing fear.”

1. Excuse Makers: View challenges they would like to participate in as insurmountable obstacles. They often feel overwhelmed and use these challenges to delay or to avoid action.

Doers: See challenges as opportunities for growth. They understand that obstacles are a natural part of the journey and are willing to tackle them head-on.

2. Excuse Makers: Avoid risks due to fear of failure, even if they’re on the bucket list. They prefer to stay in their comfort zone where they feel safe and secure.

Doers: Embrace risk as a necessary component of success. They are willing to step out of their comfort zone and take calculated risks to achieve their goals.

3. Excuse Makers: Often react to situations passively. They wait for the “perfect” conditions before the action, which rarely comes.

Doers: Are proactive and take initiative. They create their opportunities and act despite imperfect conditions.

4. Excuse Makers: See failure as a definitive end and reflection of their abilities, not a learning exercise. This fear of failure can paralyze them into inaction.

Doers: View failure as a learning experience. They understand that each failure brings them one step closer to success and use it as a tool for improvement.

5. Excuse Makers: Often lack a solid commitment to their goals. Their focus can waver, and they may give up easily when faced with difficulties.

Doers: Are deeply committed to their goals. They maintain focus and persistence, even when the going gets tough.

6. Excuse Makers: They may struggle with self-doubt and lack confidence in their abilities. This can lead to a reliance on excuses to justify inaction.

Doers: Have a strong sense of self-belief. They trust their abilities and are confident they can overcome obstacles and achieve their goals.

The critical difference lies in how each group perceives and responds to challenges, risks, and failures. By adopting a Doer’s mindset, one can move from making excuses to taking meaningful action towards their goals.

How many times have you said to yourself I want to, but I can’t, I want to, but I can’t?

“Start today by listing your goals and taking the first step towards achieving them. Remember, a thousand-mile journey begins with a single step.”

The list is endless, and we all can easily make them either in our minds or on paper, but in our minds, they are just thoughts; putting them on paper has started the things you want to change credible.

I show you in my book, “The answer is yes. Now, what is the question,” from the age of 24, how I learned to turn the world’s cruellest joke of making excuses into positive thinking, enabling myself and my family to have, be and do anything we liked, and you can too?

“The education system hasn’t yet resolved this issue, perhaps because it benefits from maintaining the status quo.”

“By adopting a doer’s mindset, we can break free from these limitations and achieve our true potential.”